Codependency and Compulsive Helping is an emotional challenges, typically, though not exclusively proven, to be linked to traumatic events, usually in childhood or as a teenager, even though our parents & family are well-meaning and never abusive or particularly negative.
It is considered that many micro-traumas or just one major trauma may contribute towards a dysfunctional understanding of ourselves and our environment, which causes us to overcompensate and reach out to others for certainty, or to create a desired emotional response – it’s like we’re using other people as a way to self-administer a hit of dopamine to ourselves – like a drug.
Codependency is a learned behaviour that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Codependent behaviour is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behaviour.
Source – Mental Health America
Codependency leaves one person’s sense of self-worth and emotions entirely dependent on someone else. There are several signs we keep observing in our codependency treatment program that you or someone you know may be falling into a codependent relationship. Here are the signs and symptoms to watch for:
Codependency is considered a disorder that manifests itself in a form of emotional immaturity, considered to be caused by some form of mild or significant childhood trauma, that triggers feelings of shame or guilt in the person, however unmerited.
Codependents are people who’ve developed an immature or childish response to certain scenarios, it compromises their ability to appropriately respond to a situation, causing them to act in a self-seeking way to attain an emotional stimulus that helps them feel better about themselves.
Traumatic childhood experiences, whether micro or major, maybe cause of emotional or behavioural distress in your adult life and relationships, which can lead you into negative thinking patterns and limiting beliefs such as:
Codependent relationships and partnerships that involve Compulsive Helpers are more and more prevalent and obvious in today’s modern society. Typically, they display an inability to find much satisfaction outside of their private relationships, but this is complicated and contributes towards a massive compromise in someone’s quality of life because they end up neglecting their own needs or wants to care for their partner, doing anything to avoid upset or rejection from them.
For this reason, these people usually stay in toxic or abusive relationships, and ultimately are unhappy with their lives, but yet unable to find the strength or courage to leave the relationships. Depression is a common crossover with people in codependent or compulsive helping relationships.
At Holina we have a wide range of treatments and activities that are proven steps in bringing you back to yourself. Each day is different at Holina but we do follow a regular daily schedule as outlined below. This is a rough guide to what your normal day would consist of at the Holina drug addiction treatment center.
On weekends we break from the normal schedule and explore some of the best locations Koh Phangan has to offer.
We have a wide selection of accommodation options available when you stay at Holina Rehab, and start our Drug Addiction Treatment Program. We believe your environment and the people around you can make a big difference in your treatment and your overall well-being.
Please enquire about the pricing structure of 24/7 medically managed detox, supervised by Doctors and nurses, licensed as an inpatient hospital on the contact form below.
If you would like to know more about our Holina Rehab Codependency Treatment, please feel free to drop us a quick message here. Please fill in as many details as possible to help us understand your current situation and addiction history.
Coming to Holina is more than just recovery. You will find support here for life. Even after completing treatment, we offer support groups for continuing support on your journey.
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Holina Village is a safe and contained space designed for young people from the age of 16 to 26, who are choosing to deal with their addictions.
Specialising in healing our emotions and expanding our spirit through our beautiful retreat in Koh Phangan.
Holina Rehabilitation Services are also available in Europe at our new Holina Youth Village in Cyprus where we welcome the younger generation who have addictions and more commonly online and behavioural addictions. We also cater for the corporate and business world with our Spiritual Retreats at our forthcoming location on Koh Phangan Island.
If the substances you consume, or your behaviour or attitude is getting you into trouble or having a negative impact on your life, The River Rehab may be an important option for you to consider. Not only will we provide you with the tools that you need, but we will also give you access to customized levels of treatment that will enable you to literally reinvent your life.
We treat the disease of addiction, which incorporates all substance dependencies, including alcohol, cocaine, crack, crystal meth, ketamine, heroin, methadone, Subutex, morphine, benzodiazepines, barbiturates, psychedelics, ecstasy, solvents, and legal (prescribed) medication addictions, as well as other process and behavior addictions such as sex, love, gaming, gambling, internet or technologies, shopping, food, exercise and co-dependency. We believe that addiction is a disease of the mind, from which we can recover, one day at a time.
We are a residential rehab experience, with a minimum of one month commitment. People are not permitted to come by and visit or look around unless an appointment has been made. This is to protect the privacy and the space for our residents and to keep them safe. We are not a day care facility or outpatient service. We only serve those people looking for a fully immersive experience.
Our minimum commitment is 4 weeks. Even considering that it’s possible to overcome an addiction with any long-lasting effect for any shorter period is simply unrealistic, and likely unethical. Whilst our minimum commitment is 4 weeks, many, probably most of our residents stay 6 to 8 weeks and some up to 12 weeks (the full program length).
We will discourage this until after week 9. Whilst it may be nice to think that your family are supportive and want to encourage you, it’s a huge distraction from treatment for the individual, and our collective observations (in other facilities) are that in over 66% of these visits it leads to disruption, early self-discharge, and often relapse. That said, please know we’re a treatment centre driven by your success and we do know that your success is significantly improved when family members are engaged in their loved one’s recovery. So if you would like to organise either a zoom call with your family and your primary therapist, or an actual family visit on site, we would encourage this towards the end of your treatment experience.
We appreciate that you will be away from your loved ones for fairly long periods of time and that connection to them is important. Sometimes work or business calls are important to you. We will always find ways to help you facilitate these relationships. We have super-fast internet, and all the bedrooms have Smart TVs running YouTube and Netflix etc.
It is our policy that in today’s modern world, our residents need to find recovery with their smart devices to hand. We are against hiding technology from our residents as it’s a useful tool to support our recovery as well as our lifestyles.
Therefore, unless you specifically require a digital detox, . you can use your phone, pad and laptop in your room outside of the scheduled structure and groups, meaning that you can use your devices before morning activities, after the daily groups, and even in between the scheduled program (for instance, lunchtime) should you choose to.
Yes you may. Whilst we’d love to encourage you to quit whilst youre with us, we acknowledge that many people still smoke So you may smoke on the balcony of your room, or in the dedicated smoking sala in the lounge area.
Koh Phangan is a warm climate all year round. It is typically in the low to mid 30s*c / low 90s*f during the day, and at night it rarely goes under 23*c / mid 70s*f Sometimes it rains, usually for up to 30 minutes, which serves at cooling down the air. Occasionally it may rain for longer periods (typically in October or November), though this doesn’t interfere with treatment particularly.
Pack as if you were coming on holiday to a tropical paradise island in Thailand – which, of course you are. Summer style clothing is recommended (light shirts, T-shirts, shorts, comfortable shoes, sneakers, flip flops / sandals, etc, light, breathable clothing and swimwear for the pool and the beaches. Most of us wear underwear, shorts, T-shirts / Tank Tops / Vests, sneakers, sandals & tongs / flip flops. Active wear for workouts and other fitness activities including swimming, sports shoes, and light wear for yoga. We do physical activities almost every day, so bring a few pairs to allow for laundry times.
There is no need to dress formal or smart. Everything is relaxed, comfort focused and easy going. We have a safe to keep your valuables in, but expensive jewellery and other luxury items are unnecessary. Toiletries: Please bring your own toiletries and hygiene products, such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, shower gel, shampoo, conditioner, shaving materials, basic makeup, hairbrush, etc. Anything you forget we can purchase from local shops.
Medications: You are allowed to continue using your doctor-prescribed medications while in rehab, but please do bring proof of your prescription. Please keep all your pills in the original packaging so that they are not to be unauthorized narcotics.
Kindly do not bring the following: Alcohol or drugs: It might seem self-explanatory, but some clients may try to sneak in a last-minute hit, fix, pill, can, bottle, etc. Your bags and belongings will be searched when you arrive at Holina. Alcohol or drug paraphernalia: This includes anything that advertises or glorifies the use of alcohol or drugs. This should also include items that display support for criminal acts including terrorism, sex, gambling, or other negatively perceived notions that could upset other residents.
Weapons: There is absolutely no need to bring any knives or weapons with you to Thailand or to treatment. They will be confiscated and destroyed. Toiletries that contain alcohol: Leave any alcohol-based products at home, such as certain mouthwashes, nail polish remover, perfumes, and aerosols.
We have 2 main Chef’s (supported by 2 other Thai chefs) – a Meat focused one and a Vegan Chef. You can advise us of any of your specific dietary needs and we can manage them. We’re used to having people with all types of needs. Nothing unusual there.
Our prices are all inclusive and dependent upon the style of room you choose – shared, single occupancy or private plunge pool villa. You can view our prices here
We don’t have any hidden costs, though there are some costs that should be aware of. We pay for any psychiatric assessments and other mental health professional visits. We ask you to pay for anything non detox or mental health related, including your medications.
We also ask that you have travel or medical insurance in place before you come to us. This is really for any non-detox or psychiatric related problems, like if you fall over and break your arm, or some other uncalculated trip to accident and emergency.
We don’t pay for your flights to and from Koh Samui Airport (USM), but we do cover the cost of getting you from the airport to Holina and we will pay for your return to the airport unless you check out against clinical advice. Typically, our clients spend between US$50 and $75 per month on personal items, such as snacks, sodas, cigarettes, some toiletries, etc, but it’s not necessary to spend any more. Even gift buying on this island is relatively cheap compared to the rest of the world.
At this time, residents of most countries around the world are able to come into Thailand and achieve a visa upon entry. We will advise you on this process. It’s very straight forwards.
If you extend your treatment and need a longer visa then we will take care of this for you, and in most instances we will pay for all your visa extensions too.
Currently, there are no requirements for any vaccines to come into Thailand. This includes COVID vaccines or any other historical vaccines previously required. So please don’t worry about this, unless you specifically want to be extra vaccinated.
Holina Addiction Treatment Center
Koh Phangan – Thailand
At Holina, we understand that that when it comes to a long-term successful recovery, addiction treatment in residential rehab is only the beginning. But it’s such an important beginning!.
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